Aggrieved Women: Let's Complain About the Happy Couple
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From the New York Times:

Women Did Everything Right. Then Work Got ‘Greedy.’
How America’s obsession with long hours has widened the gender gap.

By Claire Cain Miller
April 26, 2019

Daniela Jampel and Matthew Schneid met in college at Cornell, and both later earned law degrees. They both got jobs at big law firms, the kind that reward people who make partner with seven-figure pay packages.

One marriage and 10 years later, she works 21 hours a week as a lawyer for New York City, a job that enables her to spend two days a week at home with their children, ages 5 and 1, and to shuffle her hours if something urgent comes up. He’s a partner at a midsize law firm and works 60-hour weeks — up to 80 if he’s closing a big deal — and is on call nights and weekends. He earns four to six times what she does, depending on the year.

It isn’t the way they’d imagined splitting the breadwinning and the caregiving. But he’s been able to be so financially successful in part because of her flexibility, they said. “I’m here if he needs to work late or go out with clients,” Ms. Jampel said. “Snow days are not an issue. I do all the doctor appointments on my days off. Really, the benefit is he doesn’t have to think about it. If he has to work late or on weekends, he’s not like, ‘Oh my gosh, who’s going to watch the children?’ The thought never crosses his mind.”

American women of working age are the most educated ever. Yet it’s the most educated women who face the biggest gender gaps in seniority and pay: At the top of their fields, they represent just 5 percent of big company chief executives and a quarter of the top 10 percent of earners in the United States.

Adam Smith pointed out in 1776 that the basis for economic growth is the division of labor. The oldest division of labor is between the sexes into hunters and gatherers. This couple appears to have achieved a near ideal division of labor. Why is this a problem?

Ms. Jampel feels angry that the time she spends caregiving isn’t valued the way paid work is. “No one explains this to you when you’re 21, but in retrospect, it was not a smart decision” to go into debt for law school, she said.

It sounds like she’s saying she shouldn’t have listened to the feminist conventional wisdom and instead married her husband at a younger age, but Claire Cain Miller will never figure that out.

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